SEND IASS - Meeting preparation and support factsheet

It is important to always try to attend meetings as it is your chance to have your say.

When you are at the meetings:

• everyone at the meeting should be introduced to you but if not ask who each person is and what their connection is with your child
• when giving your views start with things that are going well - this sets a positive tone
• ask people to repeat or explain anything you do not understand
• ask for any jargon to be explained
• write things down if you need to, including any questions you have
• if reports or any new paperwork are brought to the meeting, ask for time to read them.
• if the information is new or very important ask for the meeting to be put back to another time or date to give you time to go through them
• don't forget you are a professional too - you are the parent, and you know your child in a way they do not
• if you disagree with people about their views do not be afraid to say so - if you think what they are suggesting will not work discuss it with them. Ask them why they have suggested these things
• if you do not understand how a person came to a conclusion, ask them to explain it - continue to ask questions until you are sure what they are saying. Your friend or supporter might also be able to ask for things to be explained more fully.
• try to keep calm even if you are feeling angry or upset
• try to make your points in a clam and polite way and ask for a break to collect your thoughts if you need to   
• be realistic about what you can ask for and be prepared to negotiate about what will be done
• be prepared to be flexible and suggest different options and alternatives
• try to be positive with the other people present and thank them for their help